Wow! So, EFY is starting THIS WEEK!! I've been perusing through the EFY manual, and there is soo much stuff in there! Wow no wonder they say that it is draining! I am a little intimidated, not gonna lie! For one, I am not one of those always super peppy cheerleader people. That lasted about a semester in high school, and even then..yah. So I am a little nervous about that expectation.
However, we did have EFY training today. They started us out with the line dances....actually they just played the music and danced to it. haha. Everyone else kind of either followed or pretended like we knew what we were doing or just kind of stood there....(oh pick me for that one! The standing there part, that is.)
They did keep telling us that our first priority is as teachers. This was comforting to me because this is my comfort zone. I mean, not that I know everything by all means, but teaching something of such great importance to such an impressionable age means that I can't just pull it out of my hat with some crazy fun candy and cheers....it really means that I'm gonna have to be on guard all the time seeking for teaching opportunities. That is intimidating, but I know that if I am really keeping my heart in the right place and seeking the guidance of the Lord that I can know what words to say. Maybe that's why its more comforting to think about it that way, because maybe my personality type isn't your typical "EFY Counselor" type, but at least I can do the most important stuff, besides just reaching out to them and being their friend, and I can handle that. Hopefully. :) Oh so much to think about!
I have a huge bag of books and stuff that I can use as resources for lessons. Actually, if anyone out there has any ideas or anything that they experienced with EFY counselors that was good for you, something that stood out or the way they were towards you or whatever, please let me know! I am all ears!!! I've never even been to EFY so please, feel free to talk!
5.30.2009
5.28.2009
More on Being a Gentleman
Ok, so I was talking to a good friend of mine. He was seeking advice on a girl. He and said girl have been communicating back and forth via text messaging for the last couple of weeks. He told her, via text, that he enjoyed talking to her and that they should hang out some time. He was disgruntled when she did not respond to his text that stated something to the effect of "When is a good time to see you?" He thought that she was playing games with him, and that she, like all girls, was crazy and that he should give up. He was very surprised when I told him the following:
Gentlemen. When you want to court a young lady, it is only proper to either ask her in person, or pay her the respect of a PHONE CALL. NOT a text.
When you DO call, have a plan ahead of time. Tell her that you would like to take her to dinner on Friday night, and perhaps go for a walk, or whatever your plan is, afterwards, if she is feeling up to it. Ask her if she would like to accompany you. If she says yes, then tell her what time you will come to pick her up--or perhaps you could phrase it like "Does 6:00 work for you?". Then, when you pick her up, be ON TIME...please, NOT TOO EARLY, if even early at all. But no more than 5 minutes late..and if you are going to be late, call ahead of time. And PAY for the date. YOU be the driver, as well. Do not expect her to take you. And do not just ask "hey, so when can we hang out?" Make a plan, be a man! :)
When on the date, or while with the lady, follow the gentleman rules as listed below on my previous post. Then, upon walking her to her door....WALK her to her door. Don't drop her off and wave goodbye from your car. (Dont honk at her when you show up, either. Actually make your way to the door and knock.) Do not lean in for the kiss, do not attempt to pass go and collect $200. Here it is an appropriate moment to give her a friendly hug. You shouldn't be trying to get all cozy during the date, either. It just shows that you have no self control and that you are only after one thing. Girls LOVE a guy who can control himself and actually focus on her throughout the evening, and do what he can to make her happy. And ladies should act likewise. Also, try not to get off on topics that excite your own opinion and that tend to drown out the other person. A date really is about getting to know the other person. Read their cues. (Once during a dinner date the guy kept going off on politics and pretty soon I wasn't even listening anymore, he was so ennamoured with his own opinions no one at the table could interject anything.)
And please do not ask her on a date in front of other people. This is horribly rude.
But if you do like the girl, then she deserves to be treated with these courtesies. Even if you do not like her, she deserves to be treated like the daughter of God that she is. In return, I promise you, that she will come to respect YOU and really appreciate you because you treated her well. She will respond positively. I can't tell you what a difference it makes to be a gentleman! :)
Ladies, these great guys are trying so hard to make you happy, so do what you can to reciprocate! Even if you are not interested in a relationship, treat them respectfully and be the lovely ladies that you are! :)
Gentlemen. When you want to court a young lady, it is only proper to either ask her in person, or pay her the respect of a PHONE CALL. NOT a text.
When you DO call, have a plan ahead of time. Tell her that you would like to take her to dinner on Friday night, and perhaps go for a walk, or whatever your plan is, afterwards, if she is feeling up to it. Ask her if she would like to accompany you. If she says yes, then tell her what time you will come to pick her up--or perhaps you could phrase it like "Does 6:00 work for you?". Then, when you pick her up, be ON TIME...please, NOT TOO EARLY, if even early at all. But no more than 5 minutes late..and if you are going to be late, call ahead of time. And PAY for the date. YOU be the driver, as well. Do not expect her to take you. And do not just ask "hey, so when can we hang out?" Make a plan, be a man! :)
When on the date, or while with the lady, follow the gentleman rules as listed below on my previous post. Then, upon walking her to her door....WALK her to her door. Don't drop her off and wave goodbye from your car. (Dont honk at her when you show up, either. Actually make your way to the door and knock.) Do not lean in for the kiss, do not attempt to pass go and collect $200. Here it is an appropriate moment to give her a friendly hug. You shouldn't be trying to get all cozy during the date, either. It just shows that you have no self control and that you are only after one thing. Girls LOVE a guy who can control himself and actually focus on her throughout the evening, and do what he can to make her happy. And ladies should act likewise. Also, try not to get off on topics that excite your own opinion and that tend to drown out the other person. A date really is about getting to know the other person. Read their cues. (Once during a dinner date the guy kept going off on politics and pretty soon I wasn't even listening anymore, he was so ennamoured with his own opinions no one at the table could interject anything.)
And please do not ask her on a date in front of other people. This is horribly rude.
But if you do like the girl, then she deserves to be treated with these courtesies. Even if you do not like her, she deserves to be treated like the daughter of God that she is. In return, I promise you, that she will come to respect YOU and really appreciate you because you treated her well. She will respond positively. I can't tell you what a difference it makes to be a gentleman! :)
Ladies, these great guys are trying so hard to make you happy, so do what you can to reciprocate! Even if you are not interested in a relationship, treat them respectfully and be the lovely ladies that you are! :)
Be A Gentleman
Hey folks. I found this great website on being a gentleman--from AskMen.com. It talks about the long-gone chivalry that really can steal a girl's heart. So I thought I might post it for any of you who are curious......
Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
(Might I add, personally, that if a guy asks me to wait for him to come around to my car door so that he can open it for me upon GETTING OUT of the car, that is like, a million and a half brownie points. Opening it for her upon getting in is easy, but coming around the car to open her door for her, that takes extra effort, and really shows that you care and that you can take care of her. And I believe that all of these rules of chivalry should be practiced not just while dating, but throughout your life together!)
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.
Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.
Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Stand at attention
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.
Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire .
For more on becoming the gentleman you want to be, check out Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part II and Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part III.
The Basics of Chivalry
In addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
(Might I add, personally, that if a guy asks me to wait for him to come around to my car door so that he can open it for me upon GETTING OUT of the car, that is like, a million and a half brownie points. Opening it for her upon getting in is easy, but coming around the car to open her door for her, that takes extra effort, and really shows that you care and that you can take care of her. And I believe that all of these rules of chivalry should be practiced not just while dating, but throughout your life together!)
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.
Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.
Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Stand at attention
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.
Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire .
For more on becoming the gentleman you want to be, check out Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part II and Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part III.
When Kingons Attack
Ahahaha! YOu better watch out for us Kingons!!! I have taken your TRAINING course, and there is nothing that can stop us!!
5.14.2009
Live Long, And Prosper
I just have to take a moment to say that the new Star Trek movie is AWESOME. BEST MOVIE I HAVE SEEN FOR YEARS.
End of story.
The actors did such a GREAT job portraying the characters--seriously. I was cracking up how well they repeated the most familiar phrases that we hear such as Scotty--"I cannot do it captain! We haven't got enough power!"
Spock'--"I would say live long and prosper, but that would sound oddly self serving."(ok that was not usually how he says it but i thought it was funny nonetheless...)
Bones--"I'm a doctor Jim...not a __(insert whatever he is being asked to do here)_"
I loved Captain Kirk.....ow ow...!!!
The bad boy who ends up using his fire to benefit mankind....gotta love the passionate ones who get out there and do something good with it :) Not to mention those eyes.......I loved his phrase "I do not believe in no-win situations"--I totally agree with that! Not just because he is who he is haha....but I just don't think that there are losing situations, no matter where we are in life or what may arise that seems to be to our determent--maybe that is my stubbornness speaking, but nonetheless that is how I feel. :)
Me and my family did not want to leave the theater-- so don't heed what the critics are saying about how could they possibly remake star trek with different characters and what not.....
it was definitely superbly done!!!
End of story.
The actors did such a GREAT job portraying the characters--seriously. I was cracking up how well they repeated the most familiar phrases that we hear such as Scotty--"I cannot do it captain! We haven't got enough power!"
Spock'--"I would say live long and prosper, but that would sound oddly self serving."(ok that was not usually how he says it but i thought it was funny nonetheless...)
Bones--"I'm a doctor Jim...not a __(insert whatever he is being asked to do here)_"
I loved Captain Kirk.....ow ow...!!!
The bad boy who ends up using his fire to benefit mankind....gotta love the passionate ones who get out there and do something good with it :) Not to mention those eyes.......I loved his phrase "I do not believe in no-win situations"--I totally agree with that! Not just because he is who he is haha....but I just don't think that there are losing situations, no matter where we are in life or what may arise that seems to be to our determent--maybe that is my stubbornness speaking, but nonetheless that is how I feel. :)
Me and my family did not want to leave the theater-- so don't heed what the critics are saying about how could they possibly remake star trek with different characters and what not.....
it was definitely superbly done!!!
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