So I have been dwelling on this subject periodically the last couple of months. I have had several guy friends who said that they are not so sure they will be able to deal with their wife having the typical emotions that girls have. Now, being a girl, and being one to not want to put burdens on people around me, I have been observing my own emotions lately and trying to determine if I am highly emotional. Hmm....well each of my roommates, when I ask them if I am emotional, say "well, you have your days.." What? I thought I was totally stoic. Guess not!
Then I start thinking, Oh man. I dont want to be emotional! That is so hard to live with! I mean, I don't cry very often, it is true, but I guess there are other emotions. Nor do I get mad very often if at all!
OK so anyway.....on to what I was going to say in the first place. OK, first of all, we girls don't have to feel guilty about having emotions. Why? Look at this scripture:
"And also it grieveth me that I must use so much boldness of speech concerning you, before your wives and your children, many of whose feelings are exceedingly tender and chaste and delicate before God, which thing is pleasing unto God..." (Jacob 2:7)
God made us like that. It is pleasing to Him! It doesn't mean that there is something wrong with the men, either. Men are wonderful in that they teach us to learn to be more temperate in our emotions--we are also commanded to be temperate in all things. And we are wonderful to the men--we teach them the beautiful things of life that come when our hearts are tender and soft. Not that guy's can't do that, but women have special gifts of compassion and charity and discernment that are given to us to be better mothers. Men, if you had our emotions, then you probably would not fare as well in the business world, because it can be brutal out there, let's face it. Not to say that girls cant do it, but if we do, then we tend to have to callous ourselves.
Anyway, those are my thoughts on the topic. I hope that the guys out there understand that I am not at all against men, I love them dearly and am grateful for their influence in my life. I am just sad when I see men who don't appreciate the women for all they do have to offer and who get impatient with our emotions! Remember guys--YOU don't have to deal with our emotions. WE do. Let US deal with our own emotions. That is our job, and it is a big enough job as it is. YOUR job is NOT to make it better or to deal with it, but rather to BE OUR FRIEND. That is all that we need.
Girls, you are amazing. Remember your potential! And guys, you are also very amazing! Work together, learn to capitalize on each other's natural talents and spiritual gifts, and you make the best team!
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