Complimentary Colors

I've found myself in several dating situations within the last couple of years that have made me think. Dating is probably where I do my most poignant innermost probing.  But it was only until the last couple of months that I have realized the one situation that tends to resurface frequently--that one situation you try to put your finger on but can't understand why something about it makes you feel not quite right, and there really is no reason as to why you shouldn't be interested in this individual--after all, you have a lot in common, they have great values and will treat you well, and there is nothing especially wrong with their personality that would be a red flag.  And oftentimes the situation of dating this individual came about by some common friend setting us up or saying something--I probably never would have even thought of him otherwise.

 Many artists learn early on the principle of complementary colors.  Complementary colors are colors that are opposite each other on the color wheel.  When put next to each other, these colors tend to make the other color appear brighter.

 I've realized, for myself and my particular situations. this feeling of blah, or something is missing and I can't quite put my finger on it,  resurfaces each time I am dating someone who is very much like myself.  And lately, I have understood the importance of the principle of finding someone who complements your personality--not someone who has the same personality as you.

In observing guys that I find myself interested in--my senses are peaked and my joy brightens around the boy who has the qualities that I always wanted to have in myself, but which qualities the Lord did not endow me with.  Or perhaps someone with qualities that I never would have thought that I would like.  This boy naturally exudes these things as if they were a part of him from the very beginning.  And on the flip side, I myself will have qualities that he is lacking--not because of any personality glitches or sense of disobedience or unworthiness and rebelliousness necessarily--just a natural flow of who he is.  As a result, we both find the other person interesting, fun, and a marvel to be around, because they are unpredictable to us.  It makes life so much lighter and more fun!  (Not just for me but for him, as well!)

All colors are beautiful.  But one with a trained artist's eye can see that certain colors work better together to brighten a picture and keep it more lively and moving, so to speak.  Each color has its own complement, and though two colors may seem to match well, there are tricks artists use to keep a painting visually intriguing, which allows their message to come through clearer because the observer is so very enthralled by the very essence of the colors.

So friends, thank you for your thoughtful ideas on setting me up, it is very kind of you to try to help me to find someone.  I've just realized however that maybe someone I ought to be set up with is someone no one would ever suspect :)