To the shy guys...

I was talking to this friend of mine last night, who is a great guy and unfortunately he doesn't really have much luck when it comes to dating.  He says, "Why don't girls just ask guys out, that way at least we know you are interested."

Well, seems like if a guy is interested in a girl, he would ask her out, otherwise, she would assume he is not, and maybe a great girl would slip right through his fingers...or her fingers (a great guy that is)...usually you don't even know how you feel about someone until you pursue a relationship with them.  Just saying....I think there are a ton of great guys out there that sell themselves short and dont go for that girl.  Yes, the louder guys tend to get more attention, but then all the other ones don't get noticed because they are too shy to ask.  How is the girl going to know the guy at all if he doesn't try, especially if he is shy? ha

Besides, in my experience, if a girl does the pursuing the guy just doesn't have interest because she is too forward.  And I for one have been that girl and refuse to do it anymore, because it only results in a lot lot lot of heartache, because for some reason girls just hang on longer.  So if a guy doesn't pursue me, well, I might show interest for awhile but he is definitely NOT going to keep me on the shelf forever and not do anything about it. Most girls feel that way, they will move on to more productive pastures. lol.  So to you shy guys out there, I say just go for it, because you are awesome and have a lot to offer, and I promise if you just try you will find someone, somewhere. haha ...and yes guys say they are dense and dont get the hints, thats why I say just go for it.  And to you who I was talking to, you know who you are! :)  and yes I stayed up an hour past my bedtime cause I liked our conversation. haha GOOD LUCK!! poor guys....