More on Being a Gentleman

Ok, so I was talking to a good friend of mine. He was seeking advice on a girl. He and said girl have been communicating back and forth via text messaging for the last couple of weeks. He told her, via text, that he enjoyed talking to her and that they should hang out some time. He was disgruntled when she did not respond to his text that stated something to the effect of "When is a good time to see you?" He thought that she was playing games with him, and that she, like all girls, was crazy and that he should give up. He was very surprised when I told him the following:

Gentlemen. When you want to court a young lady, it is only proper to either ask her in person, or pay her the respect of a PHONE CALL. NOT a text.

When you DO call, have a plan ahead of time. Tell her that you would like to take her to dinner on Friday night, and perhaps go for a walk, or whatever your plan is, afterwards, if she is feeling up to it. Ask her if she would like to accompany you. If she says yes, then tell her what time you will come to pick her up--or perhaps you could phrase it like "Does 6:00 work for you?". Then, when you pick her up, be ON TIME...please, NOT TOO EARLY, if even early at all. But no more than 5 minutes late..and if you are going to be late, call ahead of time. And PAY for the date. YOU be the driver, as well. Do not expect her to take you. And do not just ask "hey, so when can we hang out?" Make a plan, be a man! :)

When on the date, or while with the lady, follow the gentleman rules as listed below on my previous post. Then, upon walking her to her door....WALK her to her door. Don't drop her off and wave goodbye from your car. (Dont honk at her when you show up, either. Actually make your way to the door and knock.) Do not lean in for the kiss, do not attempt to pass go and collect $200. Here it is an appropriate moment to give her a friendly hug. You shouldn't be trying to get all cozy during the date, either. It just shows that you have no self control and that you are only after one thing. Girls LOVE a guy who can control himself and actually focus on her throughout the evening, and do what he can to make her happy. And ladies should act likewise. Also, try not to get off on topics that excite your own opinion and that tend to drown out the other person. A date really is about getting to know the other person. Read their cues. (Once during a dinner date the guy kept going off on politics and pretty soon I wasn't even listening anymore, he was so ennamoured with his own opinions no one at the table could interject anything.)

And please do not ask her on a date in front of other people. This is horribly rude.

But if you do like the girl, then she deserves to be treated with these courtesies. Even if you do not like her, she deserves to be treated like the daughter of God that she is. In return, I promise you, that she will come to respect YOU and really appreciate you because you treated her well. She will respond positively. I can't tell you what a difference it makes to be a gentleman! :)

Ladies, these great guys are trying so hard to make you happy, so do what you can to reciprocate! Even if you are not interested in a relationship, treat them respectfully and be the lovely ladies that you are! :)