Alright people. So just because I am single does not mean I have a reason to not like Valentine's day. Actually, I've never been a huge fan of it. Not even when I am dating someone. In fact, its WAY worse when I'm dating someone. Why, you ask? It's a day to celebrate love, Shayna! Do you hate? Would you rather have a day of blackness and woe? Well, yes, actually. It would be the Halloween of February. That's why February doesn't have 31 days like October--they wanted to avoid Hallow-tines...
Actually, I am NOT against love. In fact, I am very much FOR love. Maybe that's why I dislike a day that I perceive as a day construed by some woman that was not feeling appreciated enough and expected more attention than her lover was giving. (Or perhaps a very needy guy....) You see, to me, love means simple day-to-day acts, thoughtfulness daily, frequent expressions of "I love you" and "You are appreciated." If someone does something big and grand, well, it just seems like there must be an imbalance in the relationship somewhere. It isn't temperate--its passionate on some days, and cold on other days. Of course, it also creates more expectation problems between guys and girls--The man buys flowers for his mom, for example, and then doesn't buy the flowers for his wife (who obviously gets offended--dang, I would be too, what a jerk.....and THAT is a true story I heard on Valentine's) It's all commercialized, insincere, and create this massive anxiety....
Anyways, maybe I am wrong, but that is the way I feel about it at this moment in my life.
The end.
2 comments:
Oh Shayna. . . . It's not a day for underappreciated men or women, it's a day to re-remember all the reasons you do love someone and act on those feelings. Maybe for some people it has become the overcommercialized, pity party you talk about, but for some it's just another reason to do something nice and brighten your significant other's day. It doesn't have to be flashy. Mark simply got me my favorite dinner and let me go out and get a pedicure with friends without having to worry about Tyler. Perfect!
It's kind of like Christmas and Easter. Some people only try to be Christlike on those days or around those times, but really, it's just a time to reevaluate your efforts and your feelings and do better for the rest of the year. I dunno...that's how I see it. I love Valentine's Day! :) and I love you! :)
Alright Elaina. You got me again ;) I like how you look at it. I guess I just see so much of the opposite attitude --as long as you are with someone that looks at it like another opportunity, then I think that is great. :) I guess I just have a hard time with doing something because you HAVE to, not because you WANT to...and it seems like a lot of people feel like they have to. And then it just becomes a big deal...that and some people only do something nice ON valentine's day. Anyways, I do like the way you explained it! :)
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